Being transgender is hard enough during the year, but it can rise to a whole other level during the holidays. Whether you are out, hiding who you are, or going stealth, the holiday season may increase your anxiety. Even though you may have avoided family most of the year, there are events you can’t avoid. There are family gatherings and holiday parties that you have to attend.
You have worked hard over the past year to accept yourself. Your family may not understand your gender identity or be open to learning about who you are. You still have a ways to go in your growth, but your need to be accepted as your true self by your family is normal. Even though you want acceptance, it can be tough to deal with family during the holidays. Here are five tips that will help you get through this challenging time of the year.
You have known who you are for a long time. You may have also worked hard to hide parts of yourself hoping that no one would find out. After years of hiding, denying, and pretending that your gender identity lines up with your sex assigned at birth, you can’t take it anymore.
You have arrived at your tipping point. Embracing your sense of self and knowing that you can’t go back to a life of hiding who you are may lead you to take the next step, which is coming out as your true self.
Your gender identity isn’t a choice. You don’t “decide” on your gender identity. The only decision you will make is if you come out or not.
This looks different for each person. Your current level of support and how you feel about yourself may factor into your decision to come out. You are the only person that can make the decision.
Here are three groups of people in your life that you need to decide if you want to come out to.
I have had the opportunity to work with thousands of clients over the past decade. I have been able to see patterns, everyday struggles, and assist with their growth. One of the most common concerns that individuals exploring their gender have is their confusion due to questioning who they are.
If you aren’t transgender, gender nonbinary, gender queer, or another identity other than cisgender then you will know. You will ask yourself questions along the way. Self-doubt and exploration are normal. You have every right to ask yourself who you are and it doesn’t make your identity less valid or real.
If you are exploring your gender identity you may have a ton of questions. As an expert in gender identity and many years of working in the LGBTQIAA community, I get asked a lot of questions. I am incredibly grateful to be a part of the transition process for many people over the years. I wanted to share with you the most common transition related questions that I get asked and share my answers.
The reason I started this project
I have had the pleasure of working with the transgender community for the past 11 years. Through the years, I have been given the gift of being side by side with my clients through their journeys of exploration, despair, rejection, acceptance, heartbreak, and love of their identities. They have trusted me to assist them through their journey of finding acceptance of their gender identity but more important, who they are as a whole person.